Manners For the Hoi Polloi
Teaching good manners matters, especially today. Ours may not be the worst of times – but it sure seems a ruder time than I can remember. It’s either trickling down, or bubbling up; but our bad manners –discourtesy that ignores accepted social usage — alienate acquaintances and harm friendships.
Who are you, asked the aging hippie of herself? You who thought, “Up your nose with a rubber hose,” and Love means never having to say you’re sorry, were sensible words in a conversation!
But becoming a seasoned citizen . . . well, I see how practicing good manners isn’t an antediluvian art.
A Baltimore girl “taught us the true meaning” of good manners:
Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others.If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter which fork you use. ~Emily Post
So, teaching good manners remains a timely topic, especially in the home. And the lessons are not just about table ettiquette, thank you notes and RSVP-ing promptly.
The bottom line, supporting, essential, irreplaceable attribute of good manners is “A sensitive awareness of the feelings of others . . .”
The test of good manners is to be patient with bad ones. ~ Solomon be Yehuda ibn Gabirol), The Choice of Pearls
Maybe I can work on making myself a better example?
- I can surely overlook a transgression. Or,
- I can ask, What’s up? Or,
- I really can quit expecting thanks. (Luke 17:10) Or,
- I can review my own ingratitude for so many kindnesses I’ve received and never acknowledged.
Just remembering the past twenty-four hours and the kindnesses that protected me and blessed me, puts me in my place.
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“We call bad one who rejects the fruit he is given for the fruit he is expecting or the fruit he was given last time.” ― C.S. Lewis, Perelandra